authenticity

Bodywork x Guarantees

When it comes to bodywork, I don’t make results-based promises. Clients often tell me about their symptoms, then ask if working with me will ‘fix’ it or make it go away; and, the truth is, I can’t say for sure!

It’s natural to want to know what we’re getting, especially when it comes to how we’re spending our money. And guaranteeing that I can fix your specific body complaints is probably more appealing, from a marketing perspective, than saying “I’m not sure.”

But I’ve been doing bodywork for long enough to know that, when it comes to living bodies, we can’t truly know. Every person is unique. There are so many variables — genetic traits, past experiences, habits, learning preferences, thoughts & beliefs — that affect how our bodies process bodywork and what is possible in the span of one session (or ten!)

What I can offer is this: an experience. I am here, not to fix you, but to help you experience your body in a different way.

In the process of learning to experience your body in a different way, a lot can happen:

  • Unprocessed sensations might come to the surface; some of them might be uncomfortable

  • You might struggle, or feel challenged or frustrated

  • Your body complaint might persist for longer than you think it should

  • You might learn a posture or movement pattern that resolves your body complaint, but you don’t like the way it looks

  • You might be self-conscious or feel unfamiliar to yourself for awhile

You also might:

  • Awaken to new sensations in your body that feel good & supportive

  • Learn new ways of moving & carrying yourself that help you feel strong, adaptable, & resilient

  • Resolve your pain & discomfort

  • Become more self-aware, realized & confident

I think it’s important to be honest with folx about what they’re entering into. Because, while I wholeheartedly believe in the life-changing power of this work, it’s ultimately up to you to decide if the potential benefits are worth the potential challenges.

Rolfing x Integrity

Rolfing x Physical Integrity

Throughout our lives we develop all sorts of habits, patterns, & coping mechanisms that show up in our bodies, in the ways that we move & carry ourselves.

Habits are born from our body+mind’s natural drive to be energy efficient. But when we lean on habits that are unhelpful, ineffective, or outdated, we end up wasting energy.

In a Rolfing series, we try to help you intrinsically unlearn old habits & patterns that aren’t serving you and, instead, to practice moving from your center.

When you start feel how the different segments of your body relate to one another through your center, you can begin to move & carry yourself with integrity — all segments integrated & working together.

If you aren’t already moving in this way, it’s because your energy-efficient, safety-oriented body+mind recognizes how difficult & scary it is to explore something new. And it believes you’re better off sticking with what you know, even though it may not ideal.

But if you put in the time & effort to make a new habit of moving from your center, your body+mind will have more energy for healing, pleasure, & play

Rolfing x Personal Integrity

Our body+mind are equally-important parts of one fully-integrated system — 2 sides of the same coin. Everything truly is connected, more than most people realize. As you’re going through your Rolfing series, your body won’t be the only part of you that’s changing — your mental & emotional selves are along for the ride too.

Most of our clients spend time between sessions reflecting on the integrity of their movement & posture — it’s a natural part of the learning process. Our hope, though, is that you’re also reflecting on the integrity of your thoughts & words. And that, when faced with a choice, you choose to move from your center — your Truth & your Highest Good.

We are most powerful when our body+mind+spirit are all on the same page and working toward the same goal. And I believe that integrity is one of the greatest goals we can aspire to. Living with integrity gives us power — it makes us bullshit-proof —and it opens the doors for deep healing, satisfaction, pride & joy.

Bodywork x Personal Narrative

Throughout our lives, we all create a narrative in our mind about who we are, who we want to be (and who we aren’t, or don’t want to be.) These ideas about ourselves are expressed in our thoughts & feelings & habits, in our social interactions, in the way we move, in the way we experience our bodies...

But here’s the kicker — most of us have stories & ideas that are outdated, or inconsistent with who we truly are. And when we think/feel/move/behave in ways that don’t work for us or don’t feel right, it creates a lot of tension & discomfort.

One of the things I love most about my work is helping people update their stories & ideas about themselves & their bodies, so that they can move & express themselves more authentically — it’s a beautiful process to witness, and I’m honored to be a part of it 💕

How to Connect with your True Desires

What do you really want?

There are so many messages floating around about what it means to be a good person, or to be ‘likeable’ or ‘respectable’. And we’re hardwired to care [a lot] about what people think about us; for us mammals, acceptance = survival.

But, in our concern for meeting the expectations of others, it’s easy to lose track of our own desires. We can get so caught up in ‘being a good ____’ or ‘doing ____ right’ that we don’t even know what we truly want anymore.

I’ve spent years repairing my relationship with my needs & desires. And here’s how I did it:

  • Free Yo’self • For me, being single was a huge catalyst for this healing. But, more importantly, I had to end or amend any relationship in which I didn’t feel completely free to be myself. Now, when I form new relationships, I prioritize intellectual & emotional freedom

  • Live Like Nobody Is Watching • When I started this journey, I realized that I had no idea how to spend my time when I wasn’t trying to please the people around me. So I had to ask myself often, “If you don’t consider anyone’s needs but your own, what would you want right now?”

  • Stop Judging • As I began to connect with my own needs & desires, I realized that I didn’t like some of them. Even after ending & amending my relationships, I hadn’t escaped those voices about being ‘good’ & ‘likeable’ & ‘respectable’ — they were in my head now. So I had to give myself permission to want whatever I want, to be however I am, and to accept myself no matter what

  • Give (& Ask) Thoughtfully • I no longer give when I don’t truly want to. And, when I do want to, I give freely. I’m not afraid to ask for what I want because I know that the other person is responsible for their own desires & behavior. And I’m not butthurt if they say “no” — in fact, I respect their ability to know their feelings and own them. Cementing these basic boundaries in my mind has made all my relationships better (especially my relationship with my Self)

Rolfing x Authenticity

In a Rolfing series, one of the first questions that we seek to help you answer is “Where am I?” Using touch & verbal cues, we help you more-clearly define the ‘map’ of your body in your brain.

Typically, as you develop more awareness in your body, you’ll become more aware of “How am I?” You’ll get better at monitoring your sensations and regulating your nervous system. This step is where the work starts getting *really* powerful — this is how Rolfing helps us have less pain & stress, and more energy.

But some of the most beautiful Rolfing experiences I’ve had the honor to witness happen when a person begins to answer the question “Who am I?” more clearly & authentically than ever before.

By developing better physical integrity, we create an opportunity to come into better personal integrity. And I am so grateful to get to work with folks who are ready & willing to step into the next best version of their Self!